Mindfulness is deliberate awareness to the present moment with qualities of acceptance, non-judgment, curiosity, and observation.
Mindful Parenting is the practice of intentionally bringing purposeful awareness to everyday parenting situations in order to cultivate and deepen the parent-child.connection. Being a mindful parent provides parents a tool (mindfulness) they can use when they become "mindful" of emotions and behaviors that might create "parent-child disconnection." Mindful Parenting is a daily practice of self-observing parenting habits that the parent wants to change.
Children who grow feeling connected to their parents:
• Have healthy self-esteem
• Do better in school
• Choose healthy relationships
• Feel comfortable around adults
• Explore and try new things
• Have an easier time with change
• Develop a positive self-concept
In other words, the parent-child connection grows happy children!
Please view the Mindful Parent Happy Child website at www.mindfulparenthappychild.com
You can also purchase my book, “Mindful Parent Happy Child: A Guide to Raising Joyful and Resilient Children” from the sidebar of this page.
Excerpts from Mindful Parent, Happy Child (Dr. Pilar's book)
Key Aspects of Mindfulness Practice
Now let’s consider the following five key aspects of mindfulness practice in detail:
3. describing what is happening (in the present moment)
4. non-reactivity (acceptance of your internal experience)
5. nonjudgmental approach to yourself and others
How Do I Start?
Wherever you are, whatever you are doing, you can begin cultivating mindfulness by taking three simple steps:
1. Practice present-moment awareness and observation of yourself and your experience.
2. Name or label what you become aware of.
3. Mentally “step outside” of your internal assumptions, judgments, and emotional reactions to people and circumstances and note how they help, limit, or oppress you.
Incorporate these practices into the ordinary and often mundane activities of daily living. For example, at times throughout your day you may choose to do the following:
==> Take mini-awareness breaks by stopping what you are doing; take a few deep breaths; pause and reflect on the people and circumstances in life for which you are grateful.
==> Pay attention to the thoughts, emotions, and sensations that arise as you do daily activities such as washing dishes, folding laundry, working in the garden, or performing other mundane chores.
==> Envision those people, animals, and issues you are concerned about in life, and imagine directing thoughts and feelings of lovingkindness toward them.
==> Keep a journal in which you observe and note your inner and outer responses to life as it unfolds.
==> Take a walk in nature and consciously open your senses to the richness of the experience.
Beginning with these simple mindfulness practices will help you start building a deeper and more positive connection with yourself and, ultimately, with the children in your life.
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